As my gift to you this holiday season, I am reprinting the Intuitive Eater’s Holiday Bill of Rights, written by Evelyn Tribole and the Intuitive Eating Professionals Group -- with a few of my own personal nuggets added at the end, inspired by work with clients.
It’s hard to enjoy the blessings of the season when you are preoccupied with what to eat or worried about what to say to relatives or friends who have expectations about how much or how little you should eat at holiday gatherings. Consider this Bill of Rights to help encourage more peace with food and your body during the holidays...
- You have the right to savor your meal, without cajoling or judgment, and without discussion of calories eaten or the amount of exercise needed to burn off said calories.
- You have the right to enjoy second servings without apology.
- You have the right to honor your fullness, even if that means saying “no thank you” to dessert or to a second helping of food.
- It is not your responsibility to make someone happy by overeating, even if it took hours to prepare a special holiday dish.
- You have the right to say, “No thank you,” without explanation, when offered more food.
- You have the right to stick to your original answer of “no,” even if you are asked multiple times. Just calmly and politely repeat, “No, thank you, really.”
- You have the right to eat pumpkin pie for breakfast.
Only you are the expert of your own body, which requires tuning in to your own sensations of hunger and fullness, as well as your true food preferences. It’s harder to listen when so much food and outside influences are present. It requires slowing down, something we often don’t do well at this time of year.
I would also like to add a few items of my own to the Bill of Rights. My clients inspired me to add to the items above...
- You have the right to make a choice to eat beyond comfortable fullness if a special dish comes only once a year. (Just, please, don’t beat yourself up about making this choice!)
- You have the right to leave the room (or ask for the subject to be changed) when friends or family members talk about dieting, weight loss, or food constantly or obsessively.
- You have the right to make resolutions, goals, or intentions for the new year that support your values and dreams and whole being -- instead of focusing on just your body.
- You have the right to say “no, thank you” to social and other holiday obligations or customs that don’t speak to your own values and desires -- and to try to include some new traditions or activities that nourish your unique soul during this darker time of year.
I wish you many blessings and much peace during this holiday season and in the year to come. Thank you so much for reading and sharing this blog over the past year.
(In case you've come to the blog late and have been wondering, the sweet creatures you've been seeing embedded in my posts are Bud-Bud and Boo, my daughters' guinea pigs and beloved family pets. They always seem to be doing things that resonate with my writing. They appreciate that you are furthering their modeling careers and they wish you a very happy new year, too!)